Your Year End Review
Some American motivational speakers have a
phrase. They refer to their "warm fuzzy file".
This may seem a trifle unacceptable to our ears,
but the philosophy behind it is certainly sound.
Nicola Forshaw, a professional coach with a
practice in Wirral explains." It seems to be
human nature to dwell on mistakes, failures and
the negative aspects of life. This is really sad
because we all, without exception, have some
achievements that are worth rewarding ourselves
for.
In a few one-hour telephone or face to face
conversations, at weekly intervals, Nicola
invites her clients to review where they are now
and where they want to be in the future.
Together they create a strategy for getting to
where they want to be and define the actions
that will produce the desired results.
She is quick to point out that the coach is
simply the catalyst. It is the client who makes
the decisions and the commitment. For a great
many, the weekly reporting back of progress is
the spur that keeps them on target. For others,
even small achievements can create their
motivation to raise their personal goal posts
and to aim higher.
It seems to be a natural reaction for my
clients to focus on what they have not done
rather than on what they have done. This is
enough to prevent some of them even attempting
anything new if it is allowed to pass
unchallenged.
Nicola often gets a laugh when she refers to
their warm, fuzzy file. This is simply a list of
all the good things that you have done since
your last review. These may be as simple as
having a daily "To Do" list and then actually
doing everything that is on it. They can be as
simple as spending some time with someone who is
lonely - or smiling at a shop assistant. She
says:
This doesn't exclude the big things too, but
if you focus on these it is all too easy to lose
sight of those little things that make a big
difference to someone else.
As this year draws to a close, Nicola
suggests that now is the ideal time to undertake
your own warm and fuzzy list. You will be
surprised how helpful it can be when you are
having a day when things seem out of kilter. If
you maintain your list regularly you will be
amazed at what you have achieved and this will
spur you on to do even more.
ENDS 392 words
Notes for editors: Nicola Forshaw is
available for interview and photographs. She can
be contacted on Tel 0151 678 9000 or
mail@njcoaching.co.uk
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