Valentine Help - Practical Valentines Day Help


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The glare of Valentine's Day

Love it or hate it, there's no escaping Valentines Day. Yes, Valentines Day can be one great, glaring spotlight on our most intimate lives.

As a relationship coach, every day, I work with people who are either looking to make their relationships more harmonious, or trying to find that special someone. Relationships take up a huge space in our lives, not just during Valentines, but all year round. I hope you find my tips useful in helping you to reflect on your own special partnerships at this time. Please get in touch if you want further 1:1 specialist support.

Lust goggles anyone?!

So, how do you keep the romance alive in a relationship? Many relationship experts agree that we enjoy a dynamite chemical cocktail when we fall in love, taking us close to insanity and making us completely addicted to that special someone. Yet, by the time we are 2-3 years into a relationship, the love high fades, and the lust tinted goggles have well and truly worn off. It is no wonder we feel can deflated. Why has my partner changed? This is a very common complaint. Yet, ask yourself, have they really changed? Or have you just got to know them for who they always were in the first place?

Valentine's tip..

Ignore Valentine's Day for starters! Don't wait for society to dictate when you can be romantic, seductive or sexy. Be spontaneous! Identify that one special thing about your partner that truly drove you wild in the first place. Look at your partner like you were seeing them for the first time again, what feelings arise in you? Use them! Act on your impulses! There is something very inspiring about desiring and being desired. Unless you prefer feeling grumpy, frumpy and taken for granted of course!!

Are you a love junkie?!

Many people are addicted to the thrill of the chase, and find themselves quickly losing interest in a relationship. Do you find yourself drifting from relationship to relationship, wondering what's wrong with all the guys/gals out there, or even what's wrong with you?

Valentine's tip

Discover what really makes you tick! What do you find most thrilling and fulfilling when you are first in a relationship? Identify your top 3, and imagine yourself sustaining these things for a longer period, with one person. How satisfying does that feel? What can you change about yourself to attract that into your life? If it does not feel remotely satisfying of course, then you know you truly aren't ready for a committed relationship yet and can continue to enjoy the thrill of the chase for much longer!

Would your special someone benefit from relationship coaching?!

Now is the time for change

Now book your introductory Coaching Session with NJ Coaching, contact me right now, click here for details on how to contact me.

Nicola Forshaw is always happy to discuss this or other aspects of her approach to coaching. She can be contacted during usual office hours on Tel 0151 678 9000, mail@njcoaching.co.uk